I’ve had a couple of friends come alongside me in recent weeks in a way that has made me feel deeply loved and supported. I have a need and they are showing up with abundant kindness by freely offering their time, their wisdom, their experience, their support. It continues to take my breath away and fill me with deep waters of gratitude.
In my younger years, I believed that resources were scarce. Resources like income, opportunity and validation were finite and I thought I needed to extract as much as I could in order to have my needs met. That’s where feelings like comparison and jealousy live. Scarcity wants us to extract and hoard and resent.
And while we can look at the world through eyes of scarcity (and easily find plenty of evidence to support that mindset!,) there is another way. A way being modeled by my sweet friends. A way I try to walk in my own life, in my own imperfect way.
It’s having a generosity of spirit. Freely giving. Not with any other motive than supporting our fellow humans on this planet. Resources are abundant. I have areas that I’ve studied and walked through as a human, you have your own areas of strength. When we pour forth our wealth into others, goodness grows. The world expands. More lovely things develop.
What would it feel like to see your personal resources - your time, your artistry, your personal growth - as little gems to offer this world? And when they are touched, they compound. (Kind of like in Bellatrix LeStrange’s vault at Gringotts…) Would that change how you feel when you play your instrument? Or the pressure you feel to “succeed?”
And I wonder, when we are in a circumstance where monetary compensation is appropriate, how would deeply valuing your own gems influence your fees? You can freely give your wisdom and inspiration within a framework of appropriate compensation. You can be both generous and compensated.
It’s not always easy to navigate, but I do know that we can hold this generosity of spirit as an intention in our interactions.
And after walking decades in scarcity, I can affirm that living with a heart wide open is the more beautiful way.
One way I spread my little gems into the world is by coaching fellow humans. Holding space for you to uncover your most free and authentic path forward is a great joy and privilege for me. If you have an area of your life you'd like support with, I'd love to hold that space for you. Free of charge, as a no strings attached gift. Simply CLICK HERE and we'll find a pocket of time.
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Katie Frisco
Founder of The Musician's Mindset
Katie is a certified life coach dedicated to helping musicians overcome stage fright and believe in their own unique artistic voice. She believes live classical music is a powerful antidote for the division, pain, and loneliness pervasive in the culture and strives to support all artists to confidently share their work with the world. She lives in Cincinnati with her husband, three kiddos, a dog, a snake, and a goldfish named Orca.